Is It Really Men’s Fault? We Look at the Crisis of the Feminization of Men, Not Laziness
Recent discussions, particularly involving figures like Tomi Lahren and Laura Ingraham, have pointed fingers at men, suggesting they are to blame for issues such as declining birth rates and a perceived lack of ambition, sometimes rebranded as “stay-at-home sons”. We believe this perspective is deeply flawed and misses the real crisis facing society: the feminization of men.
It’s easy to accuse men of laziness, particularly with terms like “stay-at-home sons” being used to describe what we see as a rebrand of laziness and social awkwardness, much like “quiet quitting”. However, to place the blame solely on men is ridiculous. While lazy individuals exist in every generation, including Gen Z, we know many young men who work hard.
Instead of blaming individual men, we must look at how society has actively undermined and crushed young men over the past 10 to 15 years. For a generation, men have been told they are toxic simply for having natural masculine impulses. This has contributed to men becoming socially awkward and incredibly scared of basic interactions, fearing being called a creep or a predator just for asking a woman for a drink or sending flowers.
The deck also appears stacked against men in other ways. Consider the job market; for example, only 6% of new S&P 500 jobs reportedly went to white applicants, meaning 94% went to non-white males, and likely 97-98% did not go to white men. In dating, women can filter potential partners by height, but there are no equivalent filters for factors like having children or weight, despite many women on dating apps reportedly having kids. A young man with a good job and no debt may not want someone who is “all used up,” questioning the choices feminism has presented to young men. High-value men, we’re told, are not interested in women who identify with certain political or social trends.
Furthermore, society has discouraged men from pursuing valuable trades, pushing them towards college degrees that leave them buried in debt in their mid-20s, unable to think about starting a family or owning a home. They were told not to be contractors because it’s “icky,” instead pursuing degrees in fields that don’t lead to stable, well-paying careers. This is setting men up to fail in countless ways. We talk to many men in the trades who make six figures or close to it, yet they are single because many women won’t date them. Women often gravitate towards the same types of men they pursued in high school and seem to lack respect or understanding for men who work hard with their hands.
When figures like Lahren and Ingraham blame men, we must consider their own positions. It seems wild to hear a “childless wonder and a husbandless wonder” tell men they are the problem. Perhaps they should look inward.
The real issue isn’t inherent male laziness, and it’s certainly not fair to generalize based on isolated examples. The core problem we face is the feminization of men driven by societal pressures and narratives that have actively worked to disadvantage and disorient an entire generation.
